A thought about staying at home…..

3kidsmom — Thu, 14 May 2009 15:08:32 +0000

Well, I was thinking while I was getting ready this morning…..well really it was noon already! ha!! I have actually been a stay at home mom for the last year. I quit my job just before Thanksgiving in 2007. I really didn’t have any idea of what it would mean being home. My darling husband bought me several books about becoming a stay at home mom prior to my departure from work and it was interesting to me that women felt their identities were gone with their job etc.

I was happy to read about a lot of the worries and how some of the gals prepared but in my heart I didn’t feel those same worries. Perhaps just the reading helped me to prepare making the transition more seemless. I just know that with the birth of each of my children all I wanted to do was be at home with them. With my first two, who are now 20 and 14, my now ex-husband wouldn’t consider me being home and leaving my “good” job! I had developed a strong resentment toward the women’s movement and the changing of society that made it nearly impossible to have a one income family.

When my husband and I started looking at the possibility it seemed a little surreal as it was something I wanted for sooooooo long! I feel so blessed to have this opportunity and my hubby has been so supportive all along the way, really…..yes, he does have some expectations of me since I have been home but we have worked through them I think?!?! I do have to remind him (just occasionally…..) that everything being done around the house takes time….and I am not “super maid, mom, wife, woman”.

I know in the last year I haven’t done everything right or taken advantage of all the opportunities to “do” things, I spent my time just trying to figure out what things to get involved in, what I wanted to spend my time doing etc. It has been so wonderful to just be with my little one, every nose wiping and bottom wiping and “mommy!! can you do this for me?” moment I wouldn’t change for the world. It has made me realize how much I missed taking my older two to day care and that brings a tear to my eye even as I type.

So, all that being said, I encourage any of you out there to do it if it’s your hearts desire to be at home……you won’t regret it!

Just do it!!!

Grace

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Hello, it’s me Grace……..

3kidsmom — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 02:23:28 +0000

Hi Everyone…….My name is Grace and well, here I am, this is my first post and I am really looking forward to seeing where this blog is in a few months……or dare I say years! I am a stay at home mom that works a bit from home doing bits and pieces to help with our family income along with that I watch a couple kiddos in addition to my little one 3 days a week. This can and does make life challenging! Today we are on our own and my youngest who is 3 and I are hanging out, I am currently trying to teach her the art of cleaning up after herself! Needless to say it is a 1 step forward two steps back kind of process. Today she is sitting in front of the TVT (translate that as the TV) surrounded by 20-30 of her stuffed toys of various sizes…….ugh! I have gently mentioned that as she has brought all these toys out to the family room that later when she is done she will have to take them all back to the playroom! Assuring me that she will when she is done…..but I know from experience this won’t happen without tears later……and I of course will help her AGAIN pick up her toys explaining all the while that if she doesn’t bring them all out here there wouldn’t be such a mess to clean up! I know teaching little ones is all about repetition but can anyone tell me how to keep smiling and happy while repeating myself over and over everyday!! sigh…

If any of you out there reading this have some great suggestions on this very important matter please let me know………

Cheers!

Grace

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A thought about staying at home…..

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