Staying Sexy while staying at home!
2009
Yeah, I am going to do it, I am going to talk about sex!!!! I know……scary!!!! Well it really has to be done doesn’t it as it is part of our lives and our relationships……..
I was at a MOPS (Mothers of Pres-schoolers!) meeting last year and we had a Pastor and his wife come talk to us about sex and intimacy in marriage. It was a great talk, they were very down to earth and real which was great. During the question and answer part the inevitable question got asked…..”What is the minimum number of times per week that would be OK for a man? ” (the whole room was quietly giggling….. secretly thankful someone else had the nerve to ask this question!)
Isn’t it funny that when we are newly married we have all the time in the world to be close to our spouse and we all over each other quite frequently? Then, in comes the first child…..and life changes dramatically! We aren’t just wives anymore, we are now mommies and we are pulled in lots of directions and face it we are tired a lot of the time….
It isn’t that we aren’t attracted to our husbands it is just a lot of the time a good night sleep creeps up higher on the priority ladder. The speaker we had talked a lot about God’s plan for us as married couples and that sex was a way for us to stay close and connected to each other and that we needed to give ourselves willingly to our spouses and not hold back or use it as a way to get what we want……
I was out checking out some other blogs and this gal had a great post on this subject, here is a bit of what I read:
When my husband and I were first married, we were in the whole “can’t keep our hands off each other” stage. We frequently missed dinner reservations, movies, and other engagements because we would get carried away and not make it out the door. I miss that time. I really do. It’s just that by the time the kids go to bed at night, I’m so tired. They’ve pestered me all day with their demands, and I just want to be left alone. I want to read, or watch TV, or stare into space and let my brain turn to oatmeal.
Recently, the pastor of Fellowship Church in Grapevine, Texas, challenged the married couples in his congregation to strengthen their unions through his “Seven Days of Sex” challenge. He believes that when you make the time to have sex with your spouse, it brings you closer to each other, and to God. He also says that regular sex helps you leave a loving legacy for your children to follow and might even prevent an extramarital affair.
You can find her blog and her post on this subject at: Want What You Have
She puts a lot of humor in it and I enjoyed reading it. Maybe we all need to think about taking her Pastor’s challenge, I know there are some husbands out there who would definitly be up for it….(Sorry I know that sounds bad 
) It is true that if we feel good about ourselves and make time for each other that are marriages will be stronger because we are loving each other the way God intended us to. It’s hard to be inimate and close and not let the crap creep in if you are like two ships that pass in the night…..so ladies, time to make time with our husbands, they will love you for it!
So, give me some input on this ladies……What are your thoughts??
I am off to plan a date with my hubby!!!
Grace
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