I am the Mommy, he says he’s babysitting?!!
2009
I don’t think I am alone in this thought that most men don’t feel the pressure of care-giving like mothers do. What I mean is, they just don’t think like we do, whenever I have things that need to get done, errands to run, an appointment to get to etc I automatically consider how to get them done with my kids and then if I can’t take them I have to consider who will babysit for me when I need it. My husband doesn’t have to do that, it isn’t programed in his brain to worry about our daughter unless I specifically ask him if he can be home with her or take her with him etc. He just goes about his day and plans the things he’d like to get done and that’s it! (Things like when he will exercise, working on the computer, working in the yard, or when he wants to watch a game or something and expects no interruptions….that means I am on to keep our little one occupied!)
I am always amazed when we all get ready to go somewhere my husband gets himself ready and wonders why it is taking so long for the rest of us to get out the door! hmmm………
I am not saying he isn’t a brilliant father because he is and when they do spend time together they just have a blast, he loves to cook with her and spend time in the garden with her, he just doesn’t think of his day in relation to childcare and taking care of the kid’s like mom’s do…….am I making sense here? I hope so! I just know for me this seems to be the case. We just seem to have a different mindset, it isn’t a bad thing really just a difference between men and women. Unless I am going to be gone for some reason I am “on” as the primary caregiver and it is much more difficult for me to get un-interrupted time, it is usually a juggling act between what I am getting done and meeting our daughter’s needs.
Most of the time it is just great and wonderful to be home and taking on all those responsibilities but there are always times when we need to have a moment to re-charge ourselves to have a moment of peace and quiet to concentrate on something or I don’t know, how about using the bathroom or taking a bath without someone coming in and asking what you are doing? I don’t think that has happened for me since……1989 when my first child was born! Ha!! You might say we have an open door policy whether we like it or not!!! 
So ladies, what are your thoughts on this? Do you think moms and dads think differently on the day to day care-giving?
Have a blessed day!
Grace
