OK, so I have told you about being a Mentor Mom with YoungLives (part of YoungLife) well I guess at this point in the process I have reached frustration!  A couple of weeks ago, I guess three now, I picked her up and she and I and our little ones went to coffee and had a good visit.  She was excited to be going on a Ladies retreat at church with her Grandma and her boyfriend and her brother had just gotten baptized and I thought this is great!

Well, then the following Monday when I called to see how the retreat went etc and to just touch base with her she didn’t answer so I left a message asking a couple of questions and letting her know we had Campaigner’s (which is more of an intimate gathering) on that Wednesday etc and to please call me back when she got the message.  I don’t like to be a pest so I left it at that.  I did not hear back from her so the next day I called and her phone said she wasn’t accepting phone calls……sigh!

Bummer! so I kept trying thinking it might work at some point.  No, WRONG!  It didn’t.  Well on Wednesday I volunteered to give a ride to another teen mom with her kids to the meeting and before picking her up I swung by my teen mom’s house to see if she was around.  Her brother was in the yard with some friends so I talked to him and he called her as she was at her boyfriend’s house but something got lost in translation as her boyfriend hung up on him…..hmmmmmm!!!!!

We had a meeting about a week and a half ago with all the Mentor moms and talked about where we were at with our teens and so forth.  Well, at the moment I am not anywhere.  I am hesitant to track her down so to speak.  I sent her a card with all my contact details asking her to please get in touch and I that I missed getting together and hoped she would give me a call.  Well, so far I haven’t heard anything from her.  I have my now four year old with me and I don’t want to bring her into what could be an awkward situation if I have to go over to her house.  So, basically I don’t know what to do.

My leader stopped by her house last week and no one was home.  I am hoping she will try again.  In many ways these are girls who need someone constant in their lives but at our meeting we talked about the fact that some girls don’t have a Mentor and might want one do we continue to try if we are a Mentor to a girl who doesn’t really want one?  Hard questions I know.  I thought we were just getting to the point of having a connection together and then it falls apart.

So, at this point I am praying for her and not really knowing how to proceed.  I know I am not the only Mentor having these kinds of issues so I am thankful we have each other to talk to and some of us have small children of our own and keeping them safe and in a good place is first on our list.  I am not the kind of person that pursues someone…..I just don’t operate that way, maybe when I was younger but not now…and maybe that means I am not cut out for this.  I don’t know.  I think I am in it for a reason so I don’t want to give up but I do feel a bit lost!

Till next time….
Grace

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