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20 Aug 2010 The $100 Day

These days we love to put a value on everything, What does it cost? What is it worth? Well today I spent $100 but the value of my day goes far beyond that.

So today I have hijacked my wife’s blog and she’ll find out sometime though I’m not going to share it with her, just let her be surprised to find this here. She is out of town taking some teen moms to camp. That means since Wednesday I have been looking after my 5 year old daughter. Wednesday evening I took her to swimming lessons, Thursday some friends looked after her during the day and I took her to ballet and swimming again and cooked her dinner.

Friday was the big day, the day. A day my daughter had been talking about for 2 weeks.  As husbands we are often cast in the role of provider, working and snatching a few minutes with our kids in a way that makes us feel like we’re not being good dads. Today my daughter had it all planned, could we live up to the promise?

The day started at 7am when we got up and had cornflakes for breakfast. It was early so I made some detergent for my wife and drew up a shopping list. Next up the grocery shop and with my daughter’s help we had that wrapped up before 10am. Next up my daughter’s day began.

She wanted her nails done. There’s a place about a block away so we headed there. Now these kind of things are a mystery to men so when my daughter chose sparkly blue and also sparkly gold polish wanting to alternate colors on hands and feet I went with it. She had a pedicure and the polish was applied as she sat in a huge chair with her feet just reaching so the lady could put the polish on. My daughter looked so pleased. We sat under infrared lights to dry her nails and then went home for a snack, my daughter delighted with her glistening nails. Price $8, the look on my daughter’s face worth far more.

After lunch we went for a brief shop before a movie and we struck gold, The store had a really thin selection in my daughter’s age range but we found 3 outfits that fitted perfectly.  There were 3 pieces to each outfit comprising, top, pants and skirt, a couple with headbands, my daughter loved them all and they fitted great. We had to try them all on of course. Cost $50

We had to be a little quick because of the movie so we checked out and made our way to the pet shop to look around prior to the movie, we enjoyed gazing at the fish. Mental note perhaps time for a fish tank!

3D toy Story that’s an extra $2 for the pleasure, if you please. So armed with popcorn and a drink in we went. It was a great movie, really well thought out intricate details and much to appreciate whether you’re young or old. The 3d really brought it to life. At first my daughter didn’t want to wear the specs but soon warmed to them when the movie started. She loved the movie and by the end was sat on my lap as the tension rose. A great film and a memorable afternoon. Cost $27.

On the way back my daughter said “ice cream” she knew the store and with 31 flavors it wasn’t about to be a quick choice, after tasting raspberry she plumped for Cookie Dough and sat there as the sun poured through the windows enjoying her treat.

Then home to hang out a little before the final of my daughter’s swimming lessons. On arriving she said “this was the best day ever with my daddy”. She splashed and had fun and passed the class with flying colors. She graduated from Dolphin to Shark apparently.

Then home for tea and Pizza with salad and fruit salad. My daughter fed the dog and said it was time for bed. As she was cleaning her teeth she said ominously “tomorrow we have more things on our schedule”. Not bad for a 5 year old. She ventured more shopping, unlikely I said, so we settled on washing the car, she loves that, some yard sales, ditto, and then swimming.

So in closing I guess my point is it’s not the money you spend on your child but the time spend with them that counts. We hung out for over 12 hours today and I can’t help feeling I don’t do that often enough. I wonder how we have let a society build around us that cuts down our time with kids and how we have tolerated that. Spending time with our kids is not only enriching to them but to us too. We can see the results of our efforts and the lasting impact it makes on a young life when they realize that their parents have time for them.

So let me know what you think and keep this posts a secret from my wife if only for a few days!

30 Apr 2009 Simple, Inexpensive and Fun….

My daughter loves to play with “Play-doh” and  I have been waiting for the “Play-doh” from the store to run it’s course.  Finally it has happened, she had been mixing up all the colors and they had all dried out so the other day we decided to try and make our own Playdough.  This is something so easy, the kids can get involved and you probably have every ingredient in your house!  I won’t ever buy “Play-doh” again (it seems to dry out much faster than this!)

Here is the recipe we used:

Playdough Recipe

1 cup salt

2 cups flour

2 tablespoons cream of tartar

2 tablespoons oil

2 cups water

food coloring (or Kool-aid)

Combine first 4 ingredients, add very hot, boiling water and you color and mix until desired consistency is reached.  (It is very goopy to begin with and as it cools it sets up.)

We have had a lot of fun, it has a great texture and feels like I am getting something for FREE as I had all the ingredients.  She picked green as the color for this batch and when it wears out or dries out we will make another color.  I think next we are going to try and make Flubber!!!!!

Enjoy!

Grace

18 Apr 2009 Too Dirty to Ride in??

Hi all, feeling good today, was simply wiped out this week and that is why I haven’t posted much but I am firing on all cylinders today which is lovely! And it’s time to re-visit something from an earlier post ….Surgery day is finally here

I don’t know if you remember but back on the morning of surgery my dad wouldn’t ride in my car as he said it was “Disgusting” and I quote. It took me a week and two more trips across the pass but I finally washed it!

I am writing this to ask the following questions…

  1. “Has your car ever been dirty?”
  2. “In mid-late winter has it been just too cold to deal with it?” and finally:
  3. “Since you are going across a mountain pass did you feel like it might be pointless to wash it as it would just get dirty again?”

All valid questions as I am sure you will agree. :P Well, here is the hard evidence and all I can say is “WHAT?!!” (So, I am just not about what my car looks like… This one sits in the garage until I have to go somewhere far, far away!)

It's not THAT bad!

It's not THAT bad!

OK, so it needs vacuumed out!

OK, so it needs vacuumed out!

What????

What????

So, give it to me straight and let me know if you agree with my dad, was it just “disgusting” and an “embarrassment” to be seen in? (It’s OK, I am so over it that I can take it all in :) ) On this particular day I found the entire cleaning process very therapeutic as the whole thing with my dad has been very intense and tiring! And I have to say my car does look nice when it is all clean and shiny! But in real life I just don’t have two plus hours to dedicate to washing my car! (I usually run through one of those drive through places.) My daughter had a blast helping me clean it, she played in the boot (that would be trunk for all the yanks out there!) while I was vacuuming and cleaning out the inside.

Oh! So that's what color it is!!!!!

Oh! So that's what color it is!!!!!

For the moment my car is still clean but as I have several more trips across said mountain pass I am sure it will need another wash before I am through…sigh…

Go on, go look at your car….is it clean?
Cheers!
Grace

13 Apr 2009 Hip Replacement surgery; 2 Weeks out

Today marks 2 weeks out from Hip Replacement surgery for my Dad. My family and I went over to see him this past weekend, since it was Easter weekend I thought it would be nice for all of us to go. We arrived just after the dinner hour on Friday night and my dad looked just great! Sat in his wheel chair he was chatty and looked very well.

I hadn’t seem him since Monday and the change and improvement both in his physical and mental state was quite apparent. He seemed much more with it and was in a pretty good mood. Last weekend he was having a bit of difficulty joining the dots I think mostly due to all the medication he is on.  He really seemed much better this time which I am very happy about.  He has been doing great with physical therapy and is moving much better and needs less assistance to do some of the regular things like going to the bathroom and such. He wheels around in his wheelchair to the dining room for his meals all by himself now and has been enjoying the company of his fellow residents.

Enjoying the Easter Egg Hunt

Enjoying the Easter Egg Hunt

They took off his bandage on Saturday and his wound is healing nicely, there is still some bruising but nothing like it was. I had a chance to speak to the Physical Therapist on Saturday about Dad’s recovery and she indicated he was doing really well and making marked improvement.  I had noticed they had posted a sign up in Dad’s room about his “hip precautions” the things he can and cannot do.  I asked her about that, she said it was probably to help him remember and also possible he had been over-doing it and to remind him to behave!

I was able to spend some time alone with him on Saturday while my family did some shopping and such which was nice, we had lunch together and I met a couple of the people staying there that he had gotten to know.  It is amazing the life stories you hear in a nursing home.  The older generation have a lot to share and I think we sometimes forget to take time to ask questions when we have the opportunity to do so.  I know my Dad loves to talk about childhood memories and relatives I never knew, his college days, being in the army, and even the work he did and it’s all very fascinating.

My husband and daughter joined us later in the afternoon as they were having an Easter Egg hunt which she enjoyed immensely and we came back again on Sunday for a wonderful Easter brunch they were having for all the residents.

Opening all the eggs, she even found a Golden one

Opening all the eggs, she even found a Golden one

My Dad has been enjoying the food (he is definitely one of those guys that the way to his heart is through his stomach :) ) and all the attention he has been getting while recovering.  The people that work there are just great and many of the folks there have asked him if he has considered moving in.  The nursing home he is recovering in is attached to a big senior residence that has apartments etc and he actually has a few friends that have been living there since it opened about a year ago.  Having the nursing home attached allows married couples to stay together if one spouse gets ill and the other can no longer care for them.

So, I will be heading back over again when the weekend gets here to see how he is progressing.  He is supposed to be there for 20 days but it could end up being more due to the “hip precautions” he has in place.  He cannot move past 80 degrees while sitting, he cannot put more than 30% of his weight on that leg, he cannot cross his lets or rotate his hip.  The one that concerns us is where he cannot put more than 30% of his weight on that leg as this means they will not allow him to go up or down stairs and he has two sets of stairs in his house and the bedroom and bathrooms are not on the main floor.  He also lives alone.  We are there, my sisters and I, for a bit of time but generally he is on his own so they may recommend he stays put a while longer.

Easter Sunday, showing Poppop her new Clifford Dog from the thrift shopping trip!

Easter Sunday, showing Poppop her new Clifford Dog from the thrift shopping trip!

Overall he is very happy with the whole experience, he feels pretty good and is kicking himself a bit that he didn’t do the surgery a long time ago.  My dad is a very hard sell on things and for him to say that is just great.  I am hoping he will be able to play golf sooner rather than later.

We had a nice weekend both spending time with Dad and being able to do a few things on our own.  I am pooped out but home now to catch up on everything….including sleep I hope!

Thanks to all our friends and family for their prayers, we aren’t at the finish line yet so do keep praying!

Grace

09 Apr 2009 Amongst the Craziness of Life & Teen grades, a Tea Party!

Whew! all I can say is the last two weeks have been crazy what with my dad’s surgery and me out of town for days at a time, the light at the end of that tunnel is not even in view yet! When I am actually home all the “home” things that didn’t get done need to get done in an itty bitty window of time! (And really I have trouble getting some of it done in the regular window of daily life! :) )

So, this week I am home Tues-Fri and off again Friday to see dad and I have been trying to “catch up” on everything as well as have some fun with my daughter along the way. Yesterday we made our first stepping stone for the garden and I caught up on my ironing (there always seems to be 87 dress shirts that my husband needs ironed for work!). Laundry, dishes, and weeding were also some of the highlights!  Right now she is at pre-school and I am obviously writing to you and after I pick her up I need to iron her dress (because I forgot to yesterday in the sea of shirts!) and we are off to a Tea Party with a friend of my husbands from work. Her grandkids are in town and so we got invited for a play date/tea party which my daughter has been talking about all week!  These are the fun things amongst all the craziness of errands and housework and just being a mom, wife, and woman!

Meanwhile when all this is going on I find out my son is getting two F’s in school and is not allowed to play baseball!  His dad, step-dad and I are just fit to be tied!  (again….still???) The keyboard has now left the building…..no computer of any kind until some improvement has been made.  The laughable thing is he is getting these in Art and PE, what is that all about?  I just had that feeling that I should get on line and take a peek at the new trimester which started two weeks ago or so… He is actually doing pretty good in the other classes, Math – C, Social Studies – C+, and in English the boy is actually getting an A so far!  He ended up so poorly at the end of the last trimester he was on probation for sports and now since he is getting two F’s he cannot play until those grades come up.  My ex had to call his mom and dad and say “Don’t bother to go to the baseball game as your grandson isn’t playing….”  That didn’t make him a happy camper!

And I have quite frankly had it with the whole attitude thing! When is this young man going to realize it just isn’t working for him?  That being the class clown isn’t all it’s cracked up to be!  sigh….

Well today is a new day and the sun is shining and soon we will be off to have tea with the little people in our lives, how much fun does that sound? Lovely!!  So, I guess with that in mind there will be time later to deal with the unpleasantness of bad grades and attitude and my dirty floors!

Keeping my chin up!

Grace

07 Apr 2009 My daughter wants a tattoo….part 3

Okay!!! One fun thing I got to do last week amongst all the hospital stuff is go with my oldest daughter to get her tattoo finished! Poor thing, she was so nervous as she wasn’t very well after her first sitting and was worried about how it would all go. She ended up with the flu or something the Monday after her first appointment so that may have had something to do with how she did, I really don’t know!

Where we left off!

Where we left off!

This time it was just the two of us (which I think is better :) ) and I told her she’d do just fine, just concentrate, get in the zone and be tough! She really did great! It only took an hour for him to finish it and as he was just getting over being sick with the flu the previous week so he was just tattooing and not chatting too much which was good I think.

Doing great, hardly seemed to bother her this time!

Doing great, hardly seemed to bother her this time!

She was just so excited to get it done, very pleased with how it looks and because it went so well…..maybe another someday down the line! And for me, it was just fun to be a part of it, so often kids do these kinds of things on their own or with friends and come home and say….”Look what I did!”

All done! Looks great!

All done! Looks great!

So, now that it’s all done let us know what you think!
Enjoy the beautiful sunshine today. Cheers!
Grace

06 Apr 2009 The road to recovery… hip replacement

Sorry I have been absent!  Been back over with my dad since Friday, I took my youngest with me so she could see my sister as well as my Dad and gave Daddy the weekend off! My Dad is doing better I think although it is kind of hard to tell sometimes.  He is currently in a recovery facility/nursing home which is very nice. All the people I met there were wonderful and seemed to just want to help!

He is still very medicated for pain and the like so he is a bit dazed if you get my drift!  He had a couple of interesting nights where he couldn’t find the call button for the nurse to come which he wasn’t happy about and he got up out of bed by himself which is a big no no! (I’m still freaking out about that!)

My daughter was just a peach, on her best behavior, we stopped by Friday night for just a little while and my sister left with us to get something to eat.  She was ready to head out as she had been putting in 12-14 hour days for the last couple of days and was ready for a break as it is all pretty intense.  I went over for her as much as for my dad!  Because sometimes he just isn’t very nice! We stopped and got a bottle of wine and stayed up talking until 2:00 in the morning! :)

On Saturday we got up and around and got to the nursing home about 10:30 or so and dad had had a bad night ( as I mentioned above!!) he didn’t get a lot of sleep which is just hard as they have to come in and check on you and give you medicine etc but he had a good breakfast and acted glad to see us.  We stayed until about 4:00 which was a long day for my four year old but she did just great and I kept her occupied when she got a little antsy. They keep dad pretty busy with physical therapy and the like and we were able to have a nice lunch with him.  He had some friends stop by as well.

After we left, we headed to Goodwill to do some shopping and decompress and then went out for a nice meal……then home to collapse!  Up again on Sunday, we decided to both drive so I could leave if needed as I didn’t think my daughter would last through another big day, the newness would have worn off.  We got to watch him do his physical therapy again and were a bit embarrassed at some of the comments he makes to the PT gals!  Sometimes he just isn’t very nice!! (have I said that before?)

Again we all left for a bit of a break and to let Dad rest.  We hit some stores near by just to have a break then we went back.  My sister went back in to see Dad again as she was leaving for Florida today and wanted to spend more time with him and say her goodbyes and I left with my daughter to go home and wash my car (Did I mention my dad wouldn’t let me drive him in it to the hospital cos it was dirty…..what is that all about?!) so I went home and gave it a wash…..(possibly more on this later!)

Today we just cleaned up dad’s house a bit and got ready to go home, I had to take my sister to the airport, then we stopped to see Dad before heading home ourselves.  It has been a good weekend but very intense!!!! We will have to make a couple more trips over during the next few weekends and then my other sister is flying in on the 21st of the month.

It will be interesting to see how his recovery goes.  We found out that they will not let him go home until he can manage on his own.  He lives by himself and has stairs in his house and doesn’t have anyone full time to care for him so he may have to stay longer we just don’t know at this point.  I am glad he can’t just go home and that they are going to be looking after his best interest but I know that he won’t be happy about that!

So, he is on the road to recovery but it is going to be a long one I think, I hope he behaves himself and does what they tell him as I don’t want him to hurt himself and upset the whole process of recovery.  And I will worry while we aren’t there but I think he is in good hands…..he just needs to behave! behave! behave!!!!!!

Weary from the “road”

Grace

03 Apr 2009 Our works of Art!

I am finally getting an opportunity to share about and show your our finished artwork from my daughter’s birthday! We got them back last week but I have had so much to talk about I am just getting an opportunity to post this today.

We went to a little place in town called “Hands on Art” and did ceramics rather than the traditional kiddy party. Our little one did a tile and so I bought a frame of sorts and we can hang it up or use it as a trivet….I will probably opt for hanging it up. They turned out so cute I want to display them rather than use them at least for to start with :) .

A picture of her dad! How cute is that?

A picture of her dad! How cute is that?

When we picked them up my daughter was all set to do more, it is very fun but a little on the spendy side, something to save for special occasions or a special gift for someone but definitely something we will do again!

My daughter's four year old hands!!

My daughter's four year old hands!!

It was a great family thing to do together, next time my oldest wants to come too! Who knows we may get the whole family doing this!

Cheers!
Grace

01 Apr 2009 Day 2 After Hip Replacement Surgery!

I think I left you to get coffee!!! (more on that later! :) ) re-fueled I headed to the airport to get my sister, timing couldn’t have been more perfect. Her messed up travel plans allowed her to touch base with family in Salt Lake and that was nice for all.

We then headed to the hospital to see how dad was doing, we took a route I new and hit some rush hour traffic but all in all made good time.  When we got there Dad was still shivering, which sometimes happens after surgery, and he was having a difficult time getting comfortable.  He had some pain in his lower back and I think he thought it was the same pain he had prior to surgery so in his somewhat muddled state this upset him!

Luckily the nurse caring for him only had two patients that evening so it allowed her to spend a little extra time taking care of my Dad.  She tried moving him etc and gave him some medicine to help him relax as well as an anti-inflammatory on top of the pain medicine he was getting, all of which finally started to kick in about the time we had to leave.  Visiting hours were over at 9PM.  We knew he was in good hands and had hopes he would get some sleep.

We left to get something to eat along with a nice glass of wine! Both of us were quite tired from the day and it was nice to catch up a bit and relax before heading home for bed!

It stormed like crazy during the night and felt like the house was being attacked, my sis confirmed the night was like that for her as well!  We got up at 8AM and got ready to go see Dad.  Arriving just after 9:30 he had had some physical therapy and had been up standing before we got there.  He looked much better today and like he had gotten a little rest.

He was due for another PT session at 10:30 and this time they got him up walking.  I of course had my camera out again telling dad these were “scrapbook” moments!!!  We were amazed at how well he was doing.  We had always heard how they get you up and moving right away and they weren’t kidding on this.  They said they were going to come the evening before but because he was in pain and kind of having a bad night they didn’t.  He is so funny chatting to the PT guys!  Finally chatting about golf and he said he was planning on skipping next Monday’s game but had hopes of making Thursdays!! :P

My plans were to leave that afternoon, my hubby was home watching our daughter and working from home which can be a challenge and he had only made the arrangement for Monday and Tuesday.  Checking the pass information it was CLOSED! Argh!!!! Snowing……in the mountains yes….but it is almost April!  So, we talked about my options and just decided to keep watching the pass report.

Finally after a couple hours it opened up and I saw a window of opportunity to head home.  So, my sis took me back to Dad’s house and I packed up my dirty car and headed for home (dad gave me a hard time on this…..he wouldn’t drive to the hospital in it!).  I had to get gas and make a couple stops,  I needed to get a treat for my daughter and something to eat and then I was on my way.  It rained to beat the band then up toward the top of the pass it snowed hard!! Thankfully it wasn’t sticking to the road (I had already taken my snow tires off!) I kept thinking it would only snow for about 10-15 miles at the top but noooooooooooooooooo 60 miles!!!! I was happy to get through it knowing had I waiting an hour more it would have been much worse!

So, home again and all is good.  My sister said they had Dad walk 50 feet in the hallway after I left and he was scheduled to have group therapy today with other patients in the same recovery as him.  They are planning on discharging him tomorrow if he keeps doing well and from there he will go to a recovery facility for 20 days and have lots and lots of therapy there.

I am heading back at the weekend providing the weather cooperates to see both my sister and my dad and taking my little one with me this time.

For now, I am off to get ready as my oldest is coming down to get her tattoo finished!!! Yay! and I will have more on that as well!

Thanks again for all your prayers for my Dad!  I did tell him I was expecting a significant personality change as a result of the surgery!!! He just laughed!

Cheers!

Grace

30 Mar 2009 Surgery day is finally here…..

I arrived to my dad’s a little after 7pm last night after making a stop for something to eat…..PCC, love that, Veggie wrap and Ginger beer…..and ready to press on to dad’s.  In spite of my trepidation at spending the evening with my sometimes quite grumpy father we had a nice evening…..he gave me ALL kinds of instructions and dos and don’ts around the house as is his custom….sigh….but I lived through it :P and when he went up to have a shower and go to bed I went for a run….as I was a bit keyed up from the day!

Late to bed…and woke early this morning waiting for my alarm to go off……about 5ish I think and missing my family I didn’t sleep much after then.  Got up finally at 6AM when my alarm finally did go off…..and my gosh I think I was asleep! dead to the world for about….isn’t that always the way!  I headed downstairs about 6:45 ready to go…..a bit on the early side and wrongly assumed dad was in good humor after his hello….definitely not the case!  Very testy this morning….what I like to call “Ass-hole mode”  so fun…..I thought….”Oh my, this is going to be a lonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnggggggg day!!!”

With that in mind I was quiet for the ride to the hospital and once we arrived and got back in the room he seemed better so I put it all down to nerves…..he just isn’t very nice sometimes…..!  His attention got off me and on the people taking care of him…..etc.  The nurse prepping him for the surgery was a gal named Poonam…..so of course he has to ask what part of the Middle east she is from?!!!!!!!   She was of Indian decent but born in Canada….go figure….!!! and has never even been to India!   She took his questions in stride and I just smiled my apologies to her!, she said “oh, he is so cute!”  I thought, “Hmmmmm, you’ll get over it!” :)

Ready or not....let's get this show on the road!

Ready or not....let's get this show on the road!

Playing with the bed controls, trying to get comfortable

Playing with the bed controls, trying to get comfortable

His surgery was scheduled for 10:15 but due to a delay with the first surgery of the day he got pushed back an hour. Nice…..so much nervous tension for these things only to wait some more.  The doctor stopped by about 10:45 and talked with us…..a lively personality!  Excited to do the surgery and told Dad he didn’t anticipate any problems, after asking a lot of questions, he autographed Dad’s hip and was on his way.  Then the surgery nurse came in, asked the same questions, name, birth date, doctor…..what are we doing today?  etc etc then finally the anesthesiologist came back, more questions and after dad was sure she was old enough to be caring for him!(more of Dad being Dad!)….she gave him his some medication to help him relax, that was about 11:20….kind of like a double scotch right to the bloodstream!   He was feeling quite loopy when they took him back about 10 minutes later.

Feeling kind of strange....what am I doing here?

Feeling kind of strange....what am I doing here?

So, after making a few phone calls, checking in with my sister and my family (who I miss terribly!) you guessed it….I am spending my time on my laptop!  Thank goodness for wireless internet.  I have to hang around until after the surgery is finished so I can speak to the doctor but then I won’t be able to see my dad until he is out of recovery and up in him room.  He will be in recovery for a couple of hours so I probably won’t see him until after I pick up my sister from the airport!  She is due in about 4:40 today.

I just got called by the doctor, surgery is now over and it went well! YAY!! He is doing great and wondered if they had done anything when he woke up. He will now be in recovery for a couple of hours and I can see him once he is moved up to his room.

Well, I am famished….and in need of more coffee…and I need to make more phone calls so more on this ongoing saga later! Thanks for all your prayers!

Cheers!

Grace